journaling for journaling sake

[oatmeal_queen]

most people don't consider anxiety to be something that should be concerned over.
they don't think of it as life threatening, or severe, because it's all in your head, right? stress is not a broken bone, its not an ailing heart, and its not terminal. it can easily be taken lightly because there's no hemorrhaging involved. no visible bruising or scarring. all it takes is a strong will to just deal with it.
if you can't?
you're obviously not strong enough.


my doctor told me today that my stress and anxiety level is at an all-time high, and that i'm taking years off my life. (not sure how that works, but whatever). she said that unless i remove myself from it now, everything's going to get much worse very soon and i'm going to meltdown. i haven't slept well in weeks without some kind of sleep aid to knock me out, and it's starting to show. i'm twitching, can't keep a pencil still, and can't focus on a damn thing without freaking the fuck out. i'm having problems with being touched. she talked me through the first non-private panic attack i've had in awhile, and we worked futher on pinpointing the problem.
the solution, on the other hand, isn't so easy to find.

so i left afterward, and promptly sat in my car in tears cause i didn't know what to do.
i tried to call my little brother, but i couldn't get myself to pick up the damn phone. i've -never- had a problem calling him, of all people. that somehow just made it worse.

i'm so ashamed of this. i really am.
everytime i think of what i can do to fix myself, to stop this from getting worse, the other end of the equation is bad. the doctor basically said that i could either keep hurting me, or hurt others instead.
how the HELL are you supposed to decide something like that?

there was only one person here when i got home, but that seemed to be all i needed. she mentioned that it could be worse, that i had gone through worse. i'd gone through hell before and made it out the other side and i knew it, but all she did was mention dad and i just lost it completely. i'm so tired of trying to be strong and it's wearing a hole in me because i won't let anyone else take the burden. i can't.

somehow though, even after crying my goddamn eyes out and spilling my guts to an otherwise unprompted audience, i wasn't left with what i thought i would be. i felt better, even.
i love my friends, and i've been treating them like garbage just because i can't deal with it all myself. it's not fair, yet they're still here. and really, that's all i need.

i don't have a solution yet, not really, but i can't keep this up. i'm not ok, and this continues to cycle through better and worse days of the same thing that isn't getting the attention it needs. i'm waiting for the decision to be made for me and that's not going to happen.
i have to keep going to work and i have to keep my head on my shoulders if i'm going to get anywhere and continue to get paid to live. priorities first.
everything else? gawd. this is the reason for the problem in the first place.

on the plus side, the doctor decreed that i was essentially normal. heh. i looked at her funny until she followed it up with 'and i have a degree that allows me to make that a professional opinion'
lol, i like her. i think i'd say the same damn thing if i could.

thanks for making me laugh tonight guys, everyone who went out of their way to do so. <3
i've just gotta figure out what the hell to do next.

Comments

[sammywhatammy]

liu sis. I'm here for ya ♥ I know I'm far away, but if there's ever anything I can do, let me know.

[devilblade.livejournal.com]

That's what friends are for. Not just for company, but also to help shoulder some of the burden and work you through most of your problems. There are things you have to handle on your own, but remember that your friends are here to help out when you need it.

I know you'll find your solution someday. I know it.

[authoressnebula.livejournal.com]

I think you've already taken the best step: acknowledging that you have stress and anxiety like this, and that you're willing to tell others about it.

You shouldn't have to deal with this all by yourself; that can't be helping you at all. Rant here about things if you need to; god knows that's what I use my f-list for. A sounding board. And I generally feel so much better after I do, like you said.

There are gonna be better days and worse days. I was a worry-aholic, stressing myself out to the point of being physically sick. You know that tiny BJD you saw pictures of? She was a goal, or a "bribe" lol. My mom told me that if I was able to keep my stressing down this past semester at school, with EVERYTHING (not just college) then I could have my little doll. And I did it.

Maybe if you give yourself a goal...? Each person is different, but the main thing I wanted to give you was hope. I was badly stressing, crying every week multiple times, making myself sick...and I've come out the other side, maanged to tell myself which things are worth my time worrying about and which ones I can forget about. If I can do it, I know you can. You're a wonderful woman. And I know I'm not the only one who thinks so.

~Jean (Nebula)

[sunseenli.livejournal.com]

If I were coming to you with the EXACT same entry, and I told you I was ashamed, what would you tell me?

I don't have the answers. I suspect no one does. Hopefully we'll figure them out along the way. But don't beat yourself up for not being flawlessly perfect on the first try of EVERYTHING. No, not even the important things. Don't make yourself even less okay by punishing yourself for not being okay in the first place. And hang in there. I wish I could do more. But believe in yourself. Believe it's going to be okay.

[psychosako.livejournal.com]

i am technically on your way home from work.

Come by and draw and watch movies and destress with me.
Maybe you'd like to dance? Or do Yoga? Or drink tea?

i'm so close. Just come over.
Tomorrow. After work. Let's go eat japanese.

[oatmeal-queen.livejournal.com]

i would love to come by and destress with you. i would absolutely love that so very much. what a horrible, horrible week/month/start to year. ;.;

i wanna dance, and yoga, and drink tea, and watch movies, and eat japanese. when's a good time? want me to bring movies? i have two new crochet books, i'll bring them too. they're fantastic.
i'm so sorry i haven't called @.@

[psychosako.livejournal.com]

Any time is a good time.
Bring any movies you want to. I still have your Mothman Prophecies, and i forgot that you still have my parents' V for Vendetta. :3
I would like to play with your crochet books.
Yous gots mah digits. txt me or call me or whatever. ^ _ ^

[oatmeal-queen.livejournal.com]

awesome :3 i'll be coming over then.
with movies. i'll figure out which.
actually, the movie i have of your parents' is Merlin. the V for Vendetta I have is mine ^^;
and i will definately bring the books. see you this evening <3